||[Apr. 12th, 2004|03:04 pm]
Tizzy and P-Dawg's Sanctum of Doom
What is love to you?
This is what dictionary.com defines it as:
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
a. Sexual passion.
b. Sexual intercourse.
c. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
6. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
a. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
b. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
8. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid.
9. often Love Christianity. Charity.
10. Sports. A zero score in tennis.
You already know what it means to me...unless you skipped it, which I don't blame you for because it was a long entry. Here it is again if you didn't see it:
Love, to me, is that bond you share with someone who knows you so well and so completely, and you know them to that same depth. And no matter how hard you try to sever it, you know it's real because it doesn't break, regardless of all the hurt and weight and strain you've placed on it. ... Love is a chain, extending from one heart into another; the thicker it is, the stronger. I have many chains sticking out of my heart and they're all different sizes. Some go to my family, some to my friends, and another goes to Tim.
So really, what're your thoughts on it? I'm very curious and I hope all of you will respond to this.
Love is when I think about somebody, and if they're not around, I wish they were.
Love is like a dance, but a dance that you switch partners in. There are some that you dance with who you can go through the motions with and seem like you are enjoying yourself, while there are others that you can't take a step with and wouldn't want to. Finding love is finding your true partner, the person who's every step compliments everyone of yours. This partner can take a lifetime to find, or a lifetime to realize. But I believe that we all have one perfect partner, who's steps we will come to know.
When you say "one perfect partner," I'm assuming you mean like a soulmate, or as Dan would say, a kindred spirit. I really really want to believe in that, but sometimes I feel like I'm just being silly and buying into all the Hollywood romanticism.
That exact wording may have been wrong, I think that we all have multiple perfect partners or soul mates. It doesn't have to be someone that you are romantic with. I believe that Nathan is one of my perfect partners.
Lots of people dont' believe in souldmates, or so I've found. But most people believe that they can find someone who will make them happy, that is a perfect partner. Romantic or not.
And really as far as the hollywood thing goes. I think that we all as humans want/ need companionship. And that is why we seek out and enjoy relationships, even if in the end we will most times be hurt. Humans need touch, and need to feel like belong and are needed. You know?
Okay, that makes perfect sense. Sometimes I wonder, though, if I've thrown away past perfect partners because it was just too much of a hassle to deal with the friend-/relationship. Like even though the problems seemed really insurmountable at the time, maybe things are better now. I really miss certain people that used to be in my life...I just don't know if the risk of getting involved with them again is worth it. (And I'm not specifically talking about Tim here, although he's certainly someone who's come into my life again and I'm really not sure of whether having him back in it is a good thing or not--regardless of how things turn out.)
Yeah, exs are hard. I was able to maintain friendships with some of my exes, now I don't see them. And I have to honestly say that there were times (years ago) when I missed them as people. Not as parteners but as people. Now I dont think they would fit into my life, and I'm not sure I would want them thre anyway. My past is my past, I kinda like it that way.
I know you aren't asking for advice, but I'm me so I'm gonna offer it up. *Grins* With the people from your life that you may have cast aside, or left drift out of your life, I think that if you have the desire to see them then you should. If it's wrong then you'll know pretty quickly. I just think the most important thing about re-visiting past perfect partners is to remember why they actually weren't "perfect" and to not expect them to be. If you can accept the steps they take that are off from yours then you can probably make a friendship out of it.
I know what you mean about wondering about it, I mean you did deem this person good enough to date. So why aren't they good enough to maintain a friendship with? Everyone deals with these things differently. Also, another thing to consider is if you are only looking for a friendship or even if you want to you try to dance again I think it's best to be upfront with the person. Confusion is only a wast of everyone's time, if you can spare it- I say do.
I've rambled enough, do you ever get sick of my ramblings?? Hehe.
Yeah, the whole reason I contacted Tim in the first place was because I missed him as a person. And then the situation kind of got tangled, but I think I'm starting to realize that it's probably ultimately going to be better for us to be friends and not try to start up a relationship again. I guess I'm just going to have to get used to the idea of him being with other people.
And no, I don't get sick of your ramblings. I rather enjoy them. :)